tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post4644888930547774985..comments2024-01-31T03:15:09.581+10:00Comments on 2CWDU: Friendship.....Wonderful.....Perilous........Damienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14413086752729344695noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post-56220356248290919552013-02-27T16:27:39.347+10:002013-02-27T16:27:39.347+10:00I truly understandI truly understandWonder Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16723949771552274515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post-69969822434307173272013-02-25T13:23:51.097+10:002013-02-25T13:23:51.097+10:00For what it is worth… I don’t keep friends, never ...For what it is worth… I don’t keep friends, never have, probably never will. They take too much time and effort, they require dedication and constant reassurance in every aspect of their existence… well at least the folks I have encountered. <br /><br />Sure, I have the Facebook account that indicates my almost 200 “friends” – reality is that 4 could count as friends (whom I see once a year) and 3 family members. I would agree that most people use the internet, twitter, facebook, etc. as a safety net for that temporary quick reward of interaction. I would rather keep them as people that know me. <br /><br />Furthermore, I work in a noisy and stressful environment for almost 12 hours every day. The best part of my day is coming home to my empty apartment and just sitting in the silence, the awesome bliss of quiet. I suppose that many would consider me a lonely person, no friends, no social life, nothing fun planned for the weekend… Yet, I find comfort in the peace.<br /><br />From my experience, it took a few years to understand that I needed to be more self-centered, to define tangible goals and then follow them. My dad would always tell me “everything you do is for you, not me, I have lived my life, it is your turn to make something.” So, I dropped the social stuff for more realistic gains, figured it was best to start with something I could actually do without stressing over what others were doing or wanted from me. Went back to college for another degree, took up walking, started reading books and the internets. Each small success (and the many ridiculous failures) gave a bit more confidence (or maybe a swift kick in the pants) to keep going forward (well usually). It took some time, but I am actually happy – no social media announcements of success, no one is watching the failures either! <br /><br />Find that part of you that wants to change for the better and then trick it into doing something productive. The friends and social stuff can happen, but it is like growing a flower, it takes time. So, yea, everyone can be lonely when compared to this hyper-media environment that we assume everyone partakes in… (or is addicted to) should this be an issue, nay, forward ever forward.Anensyonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post-51408624609109124662013-02-24T04:43:14.413+10:002013-02-24T04:43:14.413+10:00We all feel alone at some point in life, but life ...We all feel alone at some point in life, but life is what we make it. Each day is a new opportunity to make it better. American Irishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17735396614398596021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post-57045378409093268082013-02-23T00:28:48.808+10:002013-02-23T00:28:48.808+10:00I agree with you about social media. People post a...I agree with you about social media. People post about what they just ate, or how wonderful their significant other is, or what exciting things they're doing tonight, but reality is always a little bit more mundane...and a bit more complicated. Even though the point is to connect people, it often makes people insecure and envious, at least in my experience. Try to use Facebook, Twitter, and the like in moderation. They can't solve your problems, although they can be fun.Patricknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post-61695216630254061582013-02-22T13:36:34.374+10:002013-02-22T13:36:34.374+10:00and yet we continue on. the human spirit is a str...and yet we continue on. the human spirit is a strane and wonderful thing.kabuki zerohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04986034897018304468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post-86785023301308499002013-02-21T21:54:29.487+10:002013-02-21T21:54:29.487+10:00We're not used to such soul-bearing honesty on...We're not used to such soul-bearing honesty online or in real life. I commend you for that!<br /><br />I am not the usual 50 year-old gay man in that I've only been "alone", separated from my wife, for two years. Our divorce will be final in about six weeks. But I have some or all of my three kids living with me most of the time. So, in fact, I'm never actually "alone."<br /><br />Now that I'm dating, most of the unpartnered gay men I meet who are my age seem lonely, desperate almost. Thinking they've met Mr. Right (me) they often want to move directly into an LTR only to have it end just as quickly.Buddy Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052407067718899985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6384978972968180391.post-54626422461720470252013-02-21T21:52:47.730+10:002013-02-21T21:52:47.730+10:00This comment has been removed by the author.Buddy Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052407067718899985noreply@blogger.com