Thursday, 3 February 2011

........2 Cents Worth....................... I Am Single.......

............My husband and I have separated...............

...........It's painful and it hurts....................

...........No one did anything............ no one cheated......... no one hit anyone........... what happened between us was a tragedy of errors............. errors caused by life and and the difficulties of life and the difficulties of choices we make ..........and do not make.............

.......I am not going into the why's and wherefore's of how we got to this point - suffice to say, multiple family deaths, clinical depression, financial issues and the best of intentions gone awry have led us to where we are.........

......The best thing is - we started with a beautiful friendship - and we still have that...........

So............ I would like to tell you about my ex-husband, and current best friend and still soulmate....

My "bubb" - my continued nickname for him regardless :) - is the most wonderful person I have ever met and here are just SOME of the reasons why........
  • His integrity - he is a moral and good man who, if you needed money and he only had 40$ to his name, would give you 20$ and never expect you to pay it back;
  • His humour - he is funny and at times makes me laugh the silent UGLY laugh that I do when I am laughing THAT hard.........
  • He allows me to be silly - previous partners (wankers obviously) would always deride me for my sense of silliness and wanting to poke fun at and with myself......
  • He has always made me feel safe - this is very important to me - with him I have always felt that there was someone who GENUINELY cared about my well-being and always worked to see that I was no longer scared.......
  • His eyes - anyone who knows me well knows that for me it is ALL about the face - I don't care about a body - big, lean, muscled, scrawny, I don't care - the face is the thing you see when you wake up in the morning - and his eyes are a beautiful deep brown that when I look into them I have ALWAYS been able to see my soul in him - and through him, the goodness in me that I believed I did not have.....
  • His absolute belief in me - He has always believed in my intellect, my talents (my music, writing etc) and he has helped me - over time - believe truly that I am a good and worthy person....... he even was the one who suggested I do this blog - THANKS BUBB!!!.......
  • His touch - at those times where I have been in the depths of my depression or even when I was just having an "off" funky day - his touch would cause my heart to soar and my soul to sing..........
  • His smile - gorgeous...................... enough said...........
  • His brain - he is one of the smartest, most intelligent people I have ever met - and (not to blow my own horn) but on any given day I am smarter than 90% of the people in the room - and I don't hold a flame to him......
  • The pinky - and he knows what that is.............
Whilst the overall situation can be described as sad and a loss - I am so genuinely blessed that this person came into - and continues to be in - my life.....

So I have a message for him here for all of you to witness............

"Dearest Patrick,
I am so sorry for the losses and the omissions and missed opportunities,
but I am so grateful that you continue to be here.
The previous 8 years have contained experiences and adventures that
can never be duplicated..
I hope that - in this new chapter of our lives - we create yet another set
of experiences and adventures that give us similar joys.
HaShem answered my prayers for you - and I pledge to HaShem today to continue to be
the companion and friend that you have told me you value so much.
I love you Bubb.
Shalom
Damien"

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26 comments:

Single Guy said...

Sorry to hear it. Break ups are never easy. At least you are still civil!

Damien Oz said...

Thanks so much - and thank you for commenting - you blog is an insightful and compelling read......

queer heaven said...

Oh Damien, So sorry to hear you have broken up. I know it is not easy, but you truly seem to have the right attitude to get through it.
Love ya'

Damien Oz said...

qh - thanks mate - i appreciate that.

Shalom and PAX to you.

Bob said...

It's nice that you can still see the good in one another, even though the relationship is over.
You were friends for a reason, and now you still have that.

Peace.

fairviewsue said...

Gee, this is very sad news Damien! I wish you all the best and am glad you guys are still friends!

xl said...

I hope you are safe from the typhoon.

MJ said...

Here's to waking up one day to find that there are good stories on the pages you turn in the next chapter.

Mr. Toddy English said...

I don't know whether to be happy or sad. You two had such a wonderful relationship! I think it is totally fabulous...
Amicable endings are the best. At least you both can walk away with your dignity intact.
*hugs*

Kevin said...

the decision to split is never easy, obviously, but sometimes it is for the best.

all the best for both of you.

Sozo's Blog.com said...

I've been sick, so forgive me for being late in my reply, but I'm very sorry to hear about the split. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*

63mago said...

Oh dear ...

Mechadude2001 said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. Whether friends or Lovers, I hope you both can heal from this pain.

Wonder Man said...

Damien, I'm so sorry to hear that y'all have parted ways. But I hope your friendship stays strong. If you need to let it out, please let me know.

hugs

Jim said...

I'm sorry to hear that, but it happens sometimes. We just need to move along with life. Rely on your friends, that's why they're there!
{{HUGS}}

BosGuy said...

D-
Just wanted to echo the sympathies of your other readers. I'm very sorry to hear about your separation from "Bubb".

You are in my thoughts.

BosGuy

Victor said...

I'm sorry to read this news.

Ivan Vargas said...

I'm very sorry to hear this, Damien. Separations are never easy. And it's good that you see the better in him, rather than the other way around.

Ivan

Nanna said...

I spose it was bound to happen sooner or later. The signs were there, eh?

Damien Oz said...

Nanna - whoever the fuck you are you anonymous turd - kiss my fat hairy jew arse bitch.....

Corve DaCosta said...

All will be well with you. Be stronger

EMikeGarcia said...

So sorry babe, but from what I do know about you, you'll be fine.

Stan said...

I heard once that lovers were like buses...just wait around for the next one. I'm still waiting 20 years later. At least your still friends.

Sean said...

I'm so sorry. Remember your friends and family if times get dark, don't isolate yourself.

normadesmond said...

be well tattalah.

thegayte-keeper said...

Sorry to hear about your break up.