I don't get my fellow gayelles these days.
When I came out in 1990 and went to my first gay club, people were friendly, engaging, and, very low on the attitude scale. Now, I find gays - in clubs, out of clubs, in the burbs, basically anywhere - ON THE WHOLE to be nasty, vicious, shallow, spiteful people. When did this happen?
Or maybe the better question to ask is WHY did this happen?
I am often left bewildered by how dreadfully gays treat each other. There is derision. There is racism (and reverse racism). There is ageism. There is a serious lack of manners and basic civility. Which, all in all, means we have now morphed into the worst thing we could have - we are MOSTLY a bunch of nasty, bitter, hateful homophobes. We have internalised in our own community that which we have externally feared for generations. We are now homophobes.
Now hate on me if you will - I have thick skin. But I have NO OTHER EXPLANATION.
We - as Gay men - have become a bunch of men who hate other Gay men. Hate on other Gay men. And think up ways to DIVIDE ourselves as Gay men. This eludes me. We have the Christian Right in EVERY Western (and some Eastern) countries hating on us. We have extremists and members of the general population in Russia and the Middle East torturing and killing gays. We have the Aryan nation in many countries targeting gays and ANYONE of difference with violence and hate speech. And yet, we hate on each other?
We have become homosexual homophobes. I am lost. Truly lost.
I am interested to hear your views. As I have no rational explanation for this.