Dear Fat Shamers

As a fat man - who wasn't always fat - I don't suffer fat shaming.  You come at me about my size and I will tear you down like a bulldozer against a sandcastle.  There is SO much more to me than the fact that I am a XXL.  Remember - I'm bigger than you and if I put my weight into it, inertia is gonna leave you a smear on my shoe.

I am so sick as a gay man being told by other gay men that I simply eat too much and should exercise.


Really?? That is it?? 

OH JOY!!!
I FOUND THE ANSWER!!! 
OH PIP PIP HOORAY!!!

**fucker**


Sarcasm aside - with depression, respiratory steroids, ballet knees and hips, a compressed disc in my back, exercise is indeed a very difficult thing for me.  So if you can fix the afore mentioned ABNORMAL issues, please do and THEN just MAYBE I'll be able to exercise like normal people.  Pfft.

 Meanwhile the article below reprinted from www.news.com.au is a perfect retort to those "normal" people with thin waists who just love to slap people like me down.

ESPECIALLY in the gay community.

We're all beautiful – apart from those nasty fat-shamers

Date December 19, 2015 - 9:00PM  

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Wendy Squires

While the overweight may wear their pain on the outside, today's "I am better than you are" narcissists hide theirs in their shallow cores. Photo: iStockphoto
                               

Just imagine the humiliation. You are on a train, minding your own business, and a passenger approaches and hands you a business card.
At first, you think you're being asked out – or at least being given the opportunity to make a new acquaintance. Instead, you are punched in the gut with words that don't so much wound but eviscerate.
"It's really not glandular, it's your gluttony….
"Our organisation hates and resents fat people. We object to the enormous amount of food resources you consume while half the world starves. We disapprove of your wasting NHS [National Health System] money to treat your selfish greed. And we do not understand why you fail to grasp that by eating less you will be better off, slimmer, happier and find a partner who is not a perverted chubby-lover – or even find a partner at all. We also object that beautiful pig is used as an insult. You are not a pig, you are a fat, ugly human."
 
I don't know about you, but if I was to receive a card such as this –  which riders of London's tube have done lately from a group calling themselves Overweight Haters Ltd –  no matter how healthy my self-esteem, I would be rocking in a corner in the fetal position wailing, Elephant Man-like, "I am not an animal". For if there's a nastier, more soul-destroying insult than that insidious card, I am yet to find it.
The same week that I read about Overweight Haters Ltd's fat-shaming campaign, I also caught up on the story of Queenslander Maddi Turnbull. The 24-year-old graphic design student was doing her usual five-kilometre exercise route around her Parkwood neighbourhood this month when a group of men in a car started mocking and insulting her.

Maddi's problem? She is larger than the size 10 that seems the only acceptable body shape for a young woman today. Or so the hoons told her in cruder terms before driving off. But not happy with merely verbally assaulting this innocent young woman, the men returned. I'll let Maddi describe what came next.
"Next thing I saw these headlights and, as I said to the police, I just had this gut feeling. I was alone and I just knew it was them again," Ms Turnbull said. 
"I didn't see the can of paint until he [a passenger in the car] lifted it to throw at me. I turned to avoid it and it still got me across my face and my hair, across my shirt."
Yes, this woman had paint thrown on her not just for being overweight but for actually trying to do something about it.

I'll try to restrain myself from describing, in crude terms relating to their own "size" (if you get my meaning), just how I feel about the men who abused Maddi, and refer to what I believe their act reveals about their own "size" if you get my meaning, but I will try to restrain myself as the horror reading wasn't over yet.
On another news site, I came across the story of 17 year-old Canadian Lynelle Cantwell, who recently discovered she had been voted the ugliest girl at her school, on a social media poll where all the voters remained anonymous. How charming of her school mates! How brave!
Reading about Maddi linked me to a Dear Fat People video by so-called Canadian comedian and "motivator" Nicole Arbour, where she compared them to "Frankenstein" and argued that they should be shamed in order to make them happier. Dear Nicole Arbour, I can think of a way you can make everyone happier – like shutting your conceited, ignorant, smug trap.
Multiple research studies the world over have shown that fat-shaming or being treated poorly because of your weight is not conducive to weight loss. Instead, it exacerbates obesity and is in fact associated with weight gain.

Don't kid yourself you are trying to help the overweight, Nicole. All you are doing is trying to portray yourself as someone better because of your size. And you most definitely are not.
Arbour is just another example of the rampant narcissism that is creating generations devoid of decency, dignity, humility and humanity. Bloggers extolling their shiny, happy, thin and far more fashionable lives than ours; Instagram posers in bikinis with hashtags #gratitude and #carpediem; the Kardashian Kurse  – they are the ugly ones.
Because while the overweight may wear their pain on the outside, today's "I am better than you are" narcissists hide theirs in their shallow cores.
Like Lynelle, I've had enough. It's time these bullies were shamed –  not for how they look but for who they are.

I want to stand up for those of us who may not be genetically blessed, who may not look good in a string bikini, who may not have the inclination, money or vanity to surgically encompass some stereotypical standard of acceptable beauty.
In a post now shared by more than 8000 people, "ugly" Lynelle showed she is far more humble, authentic, intelligent and likable than those who anonymously voted in that vile poll.
"I'm sorry that your life is so miserable that you have to try to bring others down," she wrote on her Facebook page. "I know that I'm not the prettiest thing to look at. I know I have a double chin and I fit in XL clothes. I know I don't have the perfect smile or the perfect face. But I'm sorry for you. Not myself.
"I'm sorry that you get amusement out of making people feel like sh--. I'm sorry that you'll never get the chance to know the kind of person I am – funny, nice, kind, down-to-earth, non-judgmental, accepting, helpful, and I'm super easy to talk to. Just because we don't look perfect on the outside does not mean we are ugly. If that's your idea of ugly, then I feel sorry for you. Like, seriously? Get a life."

Hear hear, Lynelle! You are a true beauty. And don't let any inner ugly type tell you otherwise.

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An End To Fat Shaming ...

Chew on This

Paula Goodyer is a Walkley award winning health writer

Heroic and heavy: Samwell Tarly from Games of Thrones. Photo: Supplied

The TV series Game of Thrones has its share of people who meet the usual criteria for on-screen hotness - curvy women with long flowing hair and lean men with determined jaws.  But it may also go down in history for turning some stereotypes on their heads. Along with a leading man who has achondroplasia, a form of dwarfism, there’s a hero who’s overweight. For anyone not glued to this program each Monday night, this is Sam, a soldier of the Night’s Watch who doesn’t let extra kilos get in the way of rescuing a woman and child from a terrifying predator, a White Walker.  

But this plays out on the mythical continent of Westeros.  Here in the real world people who are Sam-sized are more likely to be stereotyped as lazy and lacking self-discipline. For anyone who thinks this is a terrific incentive to lose weight, it seems the opposite is true. ‘Fat shaming’ is more likely to make weight problems  worse suggests a growing body of research, much of it from the US where it’s  estimated that the prevalence of weight discrimination has increased by 66 per cent in the last decade or so and is comparable to rates of racial discrimination.

The obesity haters have had their time in the sun. It's time to hear a different message. 

When overweight children are teased about their weight, they’re more likely to binge eat than children who aren’t teased about their size according to research from the University of Minnesota, while in a study from Yale University of 2400 women belonging to a weight loss support organisation, 79 per cent reported that they often coped with weight stigma by eating more food. Other research has found that adults who experience weight stigma are more likely to avoid exercise.

”We know that in Australia disordered eating is rising among people with obesity and we know that stigma can trigger binge eating and contribute to disordered eating,” says Dr Anita Star, a senior lecturer in nutrition and dietetics at Griffith University. “The next logical step is to tackle obesity stigma to try and reduce problems with disordered eating.”

Star believes we need a public health campaign to change attitudes towards obesity and, together with nutrition and dietetics student Madison King,  has created Obesity – Stop the Blame, a social marketing campaign using messages like ‘Obesity discrimination causes harm’ and ‘Obesity is complex’. It includes a poster showing a group of children teasing an overweight child that carries the message ‘Humanity is a powerful thing. You have the ability to empower or destroy a life. What will you choose to do?’

“Results of a small pilot campaign that we did showed that people can improve their attitude towards obese people once they know more about the complexity of the issue and the harm that discrimination can cause,” says Star who presents a workshop on the campaign at the Eating Disorders and Obesity Conference on the Gold Coast tomorrow. Her hope is that she can attract enough interest to develop a bigger campaign that reaches more people.

“We have to change the conversation around obesity.  It’s a complex problem that’s not just about willpower and personal responsibility. People are exposed to so much cheap processed food, and marketing has a huge influence on what people eat. We’re also learning more about other factors contributing to weight gain including the impact of genes and early childhood nutrition.”

It’s no longer acceptable to discriminate against people because of skin colour or gender, but those who are overweight are still fair game, she adds.  When the media runs a story on Australia’s obesity problem you can bet that it won’t be illustrated by an overweight woman working out at the gym or tossing a ball to a child. Predictably there’ll be an image of an overweight person either eating junk food or sitting down - or both – and if they happen to be standing, they’ll be shown in a way that emphasises the size of their belly.  

Even health promotion campaigns aiming to reduce obesity can add to the problem, says Star pointing to West Australia’s LightenUp campaign showing a man squeezing the rolls of fat around his waist, followed by a graphic image of what excess fat looks like under the skin – a mass of yellow visceral fat smothering internal organs. While it’s true that this hidden fat is harmful and we   need to avoid it, Star believes that what might work for tobacco – gruesome images of damaged bodies, along with hints of blame and shame – can backfire with obesity.

“Rather than motivate change, shaming and blaming can make people feel worse about themselves, contributing to depression, binge eating and further weight gain,” she says.  “The obesity haters have had their time in the sun – it’s time to hear a different message.”

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/diet-and-fitness/blogs/chew-on-this/an-end-to-fat-shaming-20140523-38shi.html#ixzz32p3k9wuY

VLOG - Just Eat Less......

.....WTF.................. No I Am Not Too Fat - You're Too Stoopid...........

............................gay men - SMARTEN THE FUCK UP !!!!!

Even you - Mr Personal Trainer Who Thinks He Is A Demi God - will not be young and hot forever.

You may want to think about that the next time you are online and tell me "You could be really cute if you weren't fat."

WTF???

Seriously - our straight brothers have one over us when it comes to weight issues.

Whilst women all want to be stick thin - most str8 men like their women with curves and some fat. ALL of the str8 friends I have had over the years HATED stick thin or Barbie-like women.

And yet Gay men are total C*nts when it comes to this issue.

Why??? We are supposedly more educated, more cultured and less discriminatory - yet we see someone with my build and run screaming like Medusa suddenly busted down the door !!

Seriously - smarten the fuck up.

Karma is a bitch - and she will find you.

So enjoy your abs whilst you can - coz one day, a young gay man will look at you and say "I am SO out of your league!"

When they do - think of me - I'll be the fat bastard in the corner with a glass of red and a big "Told You So" grin.

Bitchy - fuck yeah - deserved - FARK YEAH !!!

This rant is now over - please go back to your scheduled programming.

Shalom

Damien

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..........Being Fat...............

As someone who was only big recently in life ( most of my life I was thin and buffed ) ..... let me tell you - as a society we treat fat people terribly.

When I moved to Orlando Florida in October of 2002, I was 85kgs with a 33 inch waist and a 50 inch chest - my body was mostly muscle.

Without getting into too much detail, I ballooned up to 125kgs in a year. Mainly due to the life of a housewife with too much time on his hands ( I wasn't allowed to work due to my immigration status ).

What I noticed when I got big was how I was treated in stores. I have always been into clothes and everything related to fashion in a rather serious way ( although my interest was kept quiet for many years ).

The event that stood out for me was one day when I went in to Kenneth Cole in the Florida Mall.

I was looking for a black short sleeve collared shirt for a party that I was going to. A lovely lesbian couple had invited us to their house for 4th of July and I wanted to look good. Anyway, I went to this store and was looking around and couldn't quite find what I wanted.

I stood there for a while waiting for an attendant to come to me, and then stopped one of them myself and asked "Hi. I am looking for a black or grey, short sleeved collared shirt. Do you have any?"

This guy - thin, buffed and worked out - looked me up and down and then said "Well we do... but not in your size."

I politely thanked him and left the store. I went back to my car where I sat there for 10 minutes crying uncontrollably. It was a day that I have never forgotten.

In fact, it is something that stood out when I read the somewhat silly comments made about Susan Boyle.

Because you may be bigger, or not as attractive as you may have been, does not mean beauty has forsaken you altogether.

The most important thing when it comes to personal beauty is that which we refer to as the inner beauty.

Your waistline will come and go - your ability to connect with others and to project who you are INTERNALLY will never leave you.

Consider that the next time you are out and see someone who may be carrying a few extra kilos / pounds.

How you react to them, could mean the difference between them feeling good about themselves, and them re-affirming their worthlessness by societies standards.

Shalom.

Damien

PS I'll do a follow up to this in more detail another time.....

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