Str8 Men And Their Damn Crotch Grabbing...

Here's the thing..... I am Gay.

GASP!     NO!      REALLY!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Yes its true.  I'm a cock sucking, penis loving, man loving, ass watching, Streisand singing 'mo.  If *I* grabbed my cock all the time it would make sense.  Homo loves dick therefore he grabs his dick.

Now.........Why oh why do Str8 men have this OBSESSION about grabbing their crotches?  They do it ALL the time.  EVERYWHERE.  No matter what company they are in.  They grab grab grab. 

Is it because....

• They're concerned they might put it down somewhere and forget it?
• That it might grow if they keep prodding it?
• Is it some obscure mating signal?
• Does it signal confidence or lack thereof?
• Could they be subconsciously obsessed with dick more than Gay men and just not know it?
• Is there any research on this?

I find it bizarre myself.  Yes it can be hot as hell sometimes.  But even then, it is pointless to me.  They are str8!  You don't get to bed a straight man.  If you manage to, then they are actually bisexual (even if just a Kinsey 2 or 3).

Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

Personally I don't think it is along the lines of "mysteries of the universe", but it is a mystery of MY universe so I'm keen to hear what you all think.

Shalom and love to you all

Damo
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So Hot Saturday .. Str8 Star Manuel Ferrara ...

Watching this man fuck pussy is like watching an elite athlete in slow motion.... le sigh .... le pant....

 and yes you can even buy a replica of his dong HERE......( PS that is for 7 of them but the link for ONE is there too :) ........... and I am going to :) ......

Str8 Star Sunday.... Voodoo ....

Alex Torre aka Voodoo aka "fuck em while you skydive with em".  Voodoo is one of my top five str8 porn stars I'd totally get a vag for.  The list is Nacho Vidal, Voodoo, Erik Everhard, Shane Diesel, and, Seymore Butts.

Enjoy - I need some time alone for............ meditation........ yeah............ meditation.

So Hot Saturday...Str8 Porn Star Edition...

 Tom Byron started in str8 porn as the quintessential "boy next door"...... he was a prolific actor starring in more movies than can easily be counted.... He was often cast with the notorious actor Peter North aka gay porn Matt Ramsey....

Personally I always preferred Tom... Peter seemed to plastic for my taste - yes he has a big dick and huge cumshots..... but Tom was always the one who looked like he was enjoying himself and having a great time.....

Here is some Vintage Boy Next Door Tommy Byron :-)

 Look at that booty - later on screen, Mr Byron would show himself allowing that booty to be played with extensively by the ladies....... Nice to see a str8 guy showing his enjoying of his own ass on camera......

Mr Byron getting caught with the MILF next door lol.... He has always been known as a good guy on set with a great sense of humour and fun.........

And here is the more "mature" Mr Byron.... maturing very nicely .... age has been very kind to him.....

Le Sigh............. Mr Tom Byron - one of my fave porn crushes since I first discovered porn in the mid 80's....

Enjoy all.

D
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....2 Gay... It's All Sex Sex Sex With You Gays!!.......

....Another comment from a heterosexual female.....

Now - Ladies - I am NOT making a misogynistic comment - I am simply sourcing the comment..

However, it does beg two questions....

(1) Why are gay men all about sex? (and we are - most of the time - let's admit it)
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(2) Why are str8 women (in general) so prissy about sex?

(1).............

I was chatting with someone one day - I think it was a str8 male friend of mine back when I was studying ballet - who asked me if gay guys had more sex that str8 guys..... When I stopped laughing (yes I actually did) we got into a detailed discussion about (again in general) the coming out process and the subsequent experimentation that occurs. I noted that once you had gone through all of that the actual act of sex becomes almost a non-event..

Now - I am not cheapening the act of sex - what I am doing is pointing out how serious the event of sexuality emergence is compared to simply hooking up. PLUS - there is the other issue of hetero-normative importance - namely guilt - placed on sex.

Even today - in a culture saturated with sex and an overtly sexualised media - there is still a significant level of SHAME placed on sex and how and when it takes place. Children caught experimenting are punished - rather than educated. Teenagers who are dating have rules and boundaries placed on them - rather than parents or guardians sitting down and discussing the responsibilities and respect that relationships ( especially sexual relationships ) entail.

Now - when a gay / bisexual man gets to a point where he is cognisant of his identity - at peace with it - and exploring it - sex is easy. Relationships are still difficult - but the act of sex is an easy one. Plus us Men have one thing that women don't have .................. evolutionary hook-up genes.

I'm not joking. If you look at the evolution of man - placed in the context of a natural world - Man is a hunter and seeder. And I ain't taking corn and cabbage here. Males of the species have been designed by evolution to spread their genes as broadly as possible. Now, whilst gay men can't breed with each other (beyond the BB terminology) we still possess the drive. That's why I made the remark that women have a reproductive drive of 28 days whilst men have a reproductive drive of 28 milliseconds.

So - basically it's a long winded story - but evolution gave men testicles that DO NOT STOP producing sperm or hormones - and that makes us horny - most, if not all, of the time.

Now............. str8 women............... evolution made you people the Nurturer / Care-Takers.. and I personally think you got the rough end of the stick to be honest. Most women I have talked about this with - especially back in my sexual health days - had noted that their sex drive does wax and wane *generally* on a monthly cycle. Not that this is always the case. I have known some women whose sex drive makes a gay man look like a monk.

However, the most puzzling thing to ME is the generic attitude women *appear* to have towards sex. That is to be used as reward or punishment. Now - don't go Fatal Attraction on me here - because I'm talking from the standpoint of someone who has sat with groups of women who agree with this. And its the number one complaint of str8 men - that sex has to be earned....

Are you kidding me Ladies ?!?!?!? Really ?!?!?!?

And I have to ask - seriously I might add - if this is true, why the hell would women do this? What's the point of consciously doing something that is going to foster resentment and the potential of affairs? I understand that not everyone is in the mood all the time - but are women really so absent of desire? Or is it really just the politics of hetero-normative sex. If so..... then I have to say that str8 men AND women are getting screwed....... or....... not.... which is quite possibly part of the problem with how so many str8 relationships break down.

So again - for two posts in a row - a stream of consciousness that didn't necessarily lead anywhere - and that came from off the cuff remarks - but I'm keen to hear your reactions and POV's to this.....

Shalom and Blessings for you all

D
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.....2 Queer....When Str8 Men Go Gay....

.........There is a young about to turn 21 yr old man in my office. Not a bad lad. The Ladies love him. And he loves them.... However, he is truly the gayest str8 man I know....

.....Now maybe I'm missing something....... Maybe I'm just showing my age.... Maybe I am out of touch with touching young men............. but here are the facts as they are....

He loves Gossip Girl.... as in can recite what happened in each and every episode
He can remember the type of dress - colour and material - that the women wear
He made a Gingerbread House for our Christmakkah morning tea
His fashion sense is almost PERFECT
He loves Australia / America Next Top Model
He loves beer - but adores cocktails
He loves Girly pop music
He is jealous of his best friends girlfriend because she takes time away from "their" time

..........Now I have a soft spot for this kid - he isn't the best worker but he has a heart of gold - and yet there is something........................... different about him............... I'm not 100% sure what it is......... but I am keen to hear your thoughts 2 Centres....

Shalom and blessings to you all

D
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.....................More On Gay For Pay...................................

.............................. So.................... a little while ago I did a post on Gay For Pay and how *MY* opinion is that for a straight guy to go gay for pay there has to be SOME element of bisexuality there no matter how small.

Now - I didn't just pull this statement out of my bounteous yet firm ass :) - I worked in the health industry for many years and have had various types of involvement in the sex industry - education and health support most notably - and I did know men who led hetero-normative lives whilst doing gay sex work. Each of these guys admitted that there was a thrill to sex with men. None of them were turned off. Indeed, being turned on was part of their ability to be Gay for Pay - to use the term.

Here are the comments from my readers that I invited - and some from the post I did.

"It's a bit like being "just a little bit pregnant"...

"I think a straight guy who is really horny will top for pay, but a guy who will suck dick or bottom is at least bi."

"Oh no Damien!! You have burst my bubble.... I thought all str8 guys liked to suck dick!"

"yeah, something's up with that"

"I think it would be possible to be truly heterosexual and do gay for pay acts. The trick is that the guy needs to be really into himself to be able to pull it off. If he thinks the other person is getting off having sex with him then he will also get off. That's just my opinion anyway."

"Since hetero-, homo-, and bi- sexuality have more to do than just sex, I don't think there is an answer to this question other than there are people who would do just about anything for money.

To me, being a gay man means a hell of a lot more than sticking a dick up my ass so, I would have to say that just because a man has sex with another man doesn't mean that he's gay or bi... More like, accommodating for the right price."

"I think a guy can be straight and still act in gay porn. I know guys who escort and definitely are straight. It is all "in the acting." I believe often times sex is mind over matter and gay for pay would definitely fit into that category."

"Hey man!! As you know, I profile a lot of guys in porn - and I know that for them, it is very much a business. So yes, I do believe a straight man can easily do gay for pay. Think of it like acting - there are lots of gays who play straight, and vice versa. It's a job... "

"I think there has to be at least a tiny bit of curiosity or bisexuality involved. No one that is in no way interested in gay sex is going to be able to get an erection but if there is a little interest that would probably be enough, combined with an open mind, a high sex drive and the allure of cash, it's probably enough."


Now - the comment that got me revisiting my own opinion came from Jasun over at Gay Daily Hot. Jasun - for those who don't know - works for Jake Cruise as his right hand man and deals with straight gay and bi men in porn as a job. Here is what he said.................

"Oh, for sure. I always get a giggle about the people who use hard dicks or smiling as "proof" that the guys are gay. I always say something snarky like "you realize Leonardo DiCaprio didn't really drown then that boat sank, right?" I know countless gay men who've had sex with women. Their motivations might have been different but they were still capable of not only having sex but some of them even enjoying it on one level or another. Doesn't make them straight or bisexual. We sure don't shoot those scenes all in one take. We DO have a bit more work cut out for us to present a viewable and hot scene if you have two straight men.

But yes... there are plenty of straight men who make gay porn for money."

So.............. again.............. discuss amongst yourselves.

Personally - and again this is *MY* opinion. I do not find it IMPOSSIBLE to believe that these men can indeed be straight and suck cock like he means it. Maybe it can happen - maybe they are indeed somewhat bisexual - and maybe John Magnum will magically appear at Brisbane International Airport for a week of pig love with me.

I do not know. That's why I posed the question.

But again I am very eager to hear what my readers think.

Big thanks to those who commented and emailed regarding this.

LOVE the fact that my little blog can get people discussing the BIG topics :)

Shalom all

Damien
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